I took a long walk up and around a nature reserve in my city this afternoon, after realising that even though it’s been pouring with rain, I really needed some ‘outside time’. I need to get near trees and open spaces every so often, and being surrounded by the sounds of nature as opposed to the city, always frees me up a little. As a teenager, I spent a lot of time sitting down by the river in my home town when I needed to escape home for a while, even sleeping there on occasions (unnoticed by family). Being in the outdoors is quite a spiritual thing for me, and makes me feel more connected to both the environment around me, and mankind – I think about all the people who have walked the same steps I have over the years, and seen what I have seen, and wondered what I have wondered. I think about the trees that have lived through so much and had so many people sitting under them for shelter and shade. I think about the rivers, and how Heroclitus said that you can never step in the same river twice, as both you and the river are always changing. Two years ago, I had just started going to church, and was at that stage of deciding whether to stick with it, and investigate further, or leave it as something that just wasn’t for me. I was on a trip to the Scottish Highlands to present some research I’d done, and when I couldn’t sleep, got up and sat looking out at the Loch, watching the sun rise, the mountains a perfect reflection in the water. It was then, in that true peacefulness, that I felt a sense of God that I hadn’t had before, and a feeling that church was just what I needed to be doing. It’s when you’re faced with something so big and beautiful, and lasting, that your own transience and frailty resounds so strongly. I am so human, and when I look out at scenes like that, I know, I know that there is something else out there who exceeds me in every way, and this is who I call my God. When I got back from that trip, I emailed the student worker at church (I’d been too scared to before, despite the fact that she was one of those people you know is completely lovely before you even meet them), and that was when things started rolling. Things have come a long way in two years.
I’ve avoided this particular route for a few months now, as it’s where I went when I was thinking some of my darkest thoughts – I stayed away, afraid that maybe going back would bring those things to the surface again. It’s been raining enough that for a whole two hours, I didn’t see a single other person. I sat on top of the tallest hill and looked out at the skyline, and the clouds chasing in from the sea – storm watching. I sat and looked out at the vastness and thought about God, and how I am such a small part of such a great whole. It’s times like this that I feel so very young, so incompetent and unequipped. So often, I feel like a fragile leaf tossed in the storms, so very small, with such a quiet voice that barely carries. So inadequate, so easy to pass over and forget. It was strange, going back and retracing my steps. There were a few times I was up there before when I was in such a state that had things been just that little bit different, I might have died up there, either through cold exposure, or more deliberate means, and that’s a hard thing to let go of. Retracing what felt like last steps at the time, is a strange thing to do. Back then, I lived everything as though it was the last time I’d do it, I was living on my own marked time, and didn’t care, I just felt relieved. Today, I spent a while praying, in the way I like the most – just sitting, and talking to God, open and intimately, as someone I don’t need to explain my words and metaphors to. I am mostly so grateful that I am still here, still living. I’ve had a lot of near misses. It could have been so different.
I find it much easier to pray for others than for myself. At the moment, my one promise to God is that no matter what, no matter how hard it gets, or how isolated I’m feeling, or how painful it becomes, I’ll keep going to church. I know I need it, though when I’m low, it’s often the hardest place to be. Being surrounded by celebration when I am drowning in depression, can be so very suffocating. I have so much to learn, so many spaces to fill. I have so far to go, so high to reach. I wish I could say that my church has gathered round me and been there, supporting me through this, but I can’t, as by the time I was ready to fling myself into church life, this depression had me my the hand, and I started running from, rather than throwing myself into the community, and as a fairly quiet person, no-one noticed. I wasn’t on anyone’s radar. Nevertheless, the House of God is where I go to learn and remember, and let down my barriers. It’s where I can drop my defences, and in the silences, know that God is moving through the pews, and sitting beside me, just as He did that first time I went, alone and afraid. I need something to ground me each week and can’t trust myself to be strict with my own schedule of Bible studies at the moment. I need God, so need church.
So this afternoon, I spread my arms and let the rain fall down on me, soaking to the skin, and made a promise that I won’t stop going, and trying, and praying. I’m adopting the house of God, as a house of my own. I won’t be driven out. This isn’t all that in line with what I should be praying for at Easter, but a prayer off the mark is better than no prayer at all, I like to think. Making that promise, feels like a comfort. God, I’ll keep going. I’m still going. I’m moving, albeit slowly, forward and away from the last few months. Comfort in rain – I couldn’t be more British if I tried…..