This is my first full week on my medicine of the elderly ward (MOE) and to be honest, it’s been a bit hit and miss. The consultant I’m assigned to is never in, there’s a lot of staff changeovers, and the junior doctor on my ward is in her own words ‘not a big fan of keeping an eye on students’ – so to be honest, I was feeling quite demoralised, at a loose end, and not really able to learn much. Half of my marks for this module come from ‘continuous assessment’, which is a bit problematic when no one is taking an interest. I’ve also realised just how big a hit my confidence has taken when it comes to medicine (and frankly, everything)- and I know, that this is irrational, as I’ve passed everything, well, have been working at this hospital as a volunteer for two years, have worked with people with communication difficulties most summers since I was sixteen, and am generally a good student – but I still feel as though I can’t do it, as though everything I was and did before my depression is invalid and counts for nothing. I felt a lot more emotionally labile yesterday than I have in quite a while, and it doesn’t help that every time I feel weepy, I start wondering if the depression is coming back, so soon after I finally got rid of it. It’s this horrible feeling of vulnerability, of the ability to be grievously wounded, of being open to being bruised at the core, that I so hate, that seems to be coming a lot at the moment. I’m a bit more hedgehog and a bit less lion, at the moment. I was quite excited about today as I was scheduled to sit in with my consultant in his clinic at the other end of town – but when I got there this morning, he’d cancelled it, so back across town I went, back to the ward, still not having met him. Grrrrrr.
However, I know that much of the success of this placement is down to me, and my attitudes, and in a way, the lack of guidance is good training for my first years as a junior doctor. After traipsing back this morning, I went to different wards until I found someone who didn’t mind me tagging along, did all of the paperwork the doctor had that I could do myself (lots of re-writing drug cards), and then offered to do all of the cognitive examinations that the consultant had requested, which are a bit of a pain to do as they take ages and can upset patients. I feel a lot better now, having been useful, and know that I’m just going to have to push through this, and that with time, my confidence will return, my skills will improve, and I’ll stop wanting to hid in the broom cupboard. Literally.
I’ve also been thinking a lot about my patients – I want to be a positive presence for them, someone who goes the extra mile to make sure they’re ok. It’s tough at times – yesterday I had quite a few patients die, and then found myself comforting one of the ladies’ daughters, feeling fairly out of depth – and I look at the patients I test, who are still aware enough to realise that they’re slipping away, and hate it, and are scared of what the future holds for them, and I so wish I could fix it. There’s so many men on the ward who, after years of being fairly active and caring for a wife, completely went to pieces when she died, started neglecting themselves, drinking too much, not eating, wasting away, after being left, completely bereft and alone, for the first time in half a century. It’s not easy, being old. Those golden years have so much heartache of their own.
I’ve also had some lovely surprises in the last few days – a friend I worked with in America at a special needs summer camp is coming to visit in November, which I am already (probably far too) excited about – she’s awesome to the extreme. The supervisor from my (fairly awful) research project also asked if I want to submit an abstract for a conference, which was a nice surprise as firstly, I thought that they would never want to contact me again (they were bad enough at keeping in touch when I was doing the work), and secondly, as I never thought the project was worth the paper it was printed on, let alone anything else. It feels good to be looking forward – last year, I didn’t really think more than a day in advance, as getting through that day was all I could ask myself to do. Suddenly finding myself looking three months ahead, and seeing a future there, feels good.
After a Psalm-40ish year (minus the patience but with a lot of trying to be still), I’m feeling pretty blessed at the moment – at the moment, I feel as though I’m finally on the same page as God, speaking the same language, painting inside the lines, by the right number. I feel like my faith suddenly has a bit more direction – I’ve come through my first dark night of the soul, and emerged, a new song in my mouth, still standing. I found a branch to hold on to. I’m not floundering in the dark, quite as much as I used to. I’m not saying it’ll be easy – but the sense of being on a map, being on track, is comforting. Let’s see where it goes.
*PMA stands for Positive Mental Attitude!